I'm going to announce something to the world that I may get a lot of slack from. And here it is: some earthly trials really suck! Most trials we go through in this earthly life are bearable - they come, we deal with them, we move on. Others - not so much.
I have a friend who is pregnant. They recently found out that the baby has a hole in his heart, and he has Trisomy 18. Babies with Trisomy 18 rarely make it to birth, and if they do, they only live a short time. This is heart-wrenching news. When I asked her how she was doing on Sunday, she said, "I'm good." Really? Because if I found out that my baby was most likely going to be stillborn, I would not be good. I thought about her response.
My thought is this: Are we really to a point in society where we have to mask our pain? Let's be real for one minute. No mother is "good" when she knows she will be burying a child. No mother is "good" when she knows she may never hear that child cry. No husband is "good" when his wife needs comforting and he doesn't know quite how to do that. I think if we really let others know how we feel, it's okay. When you are having a bad day, and someone asks how you are doing, say something like "this sucks!". Because - let's be clear - when something like this jumps into your life - it does.
I love this passage by President Henry B Eyring:
Remember that when the Lord lets us encounter someone in distress, we honor the good Samaritan for what he did not do as much as for what he did. He did not pass by on the other side even though the beaten traveler on the road was a stranger and perhaps an enemy. He did what he could for the beaten man and then put in place a specific plan for others to do more. He did that because he understood that helping may require more than what one person can do.
Read this full article HERE.
Life is not easy. Nor should we pretend that it is. When our faith can make the eternal picture still be bright, even with losing a child, this in no way makes it easy here on earth. We all have trials. Some may be beyond our capacity and understanding. When these extreme trials come into our lives, let's let others in and let them serve us. This is one of the hardest things to do - admit when we are not okay and letting others help. Serving others, and being served, is one of the great opportunities in this life to truly show charity and love for one another.